Online dating and anxiety
Behind my smile, my cheeks are beginning to ache from attempting to hide any trace of nervousness.They feel like they’re burning; and my self-consciousness turns them an even deeper shade of scarlet. The logical part of my brain knows none of these things matter (unless he really is a serial killer) and if it doesn't work out we'll both just move on with our lives. I've been single for an embarrassing length of time. Coffee or a drink to start, and have something you must attend afterward. Prepare for the awkward phase by reading The Post, watching Sports Center or "30 for 30," and skimming People magazine for relatively safe topics of conversation. I'm in therapy but the meeting will most likely happen before my next appointment (and her answer to everything is to meditate). -"[T]he thought of spending a couple of hours with someone ...
Dating is just one of the many social interactions that I’ve grown to dread, but I am determined not to give in to the overwhelming instinct to avoid it altogether.
Hi, Carolyn: I think online dating is a great idea in theory.
But I have anxiety and the thought of spending a couple of hours with someone I don't know is enough to give me the sweats.
I manage my anxiety using a few methods that have worked for me, but many people with anxiety seek help from health professionals, which can be very effective. The prospect of approaching a good-looking stranger in person fills me with absolute horror. When I’m messaging a match on Tinder or Hinge, I feel more confident and reassured just knowing that I talk to a member of the opposite sex without blushing or feeling sick.
Getting to know someone ahead of a date really helps to assuage any fears I have about first encounters.