Dating a guy 7 years older
In this scenario, I’m not pointing any fingers, I’m just saying it’s a smart thing to do because it will give you insight into how you are and clarity on the whole situation.
Generally speaking, I think it’s destructive in a relationship to think about things in terms of what someone is doing right or wrong (whether it’s you or the guy you’re with).
We don’t like chit-chat if it’s not towards a purpose, it’s just not how we’re wired.
I would say that if he says he’s going to text or call you, he should do that…
Can you give me a reason that would help me understand why this keeps happening? I would say go for understanding, don’t go for resolution.
When you put it to him like that, you’re not blaming him, you’re just telling him how you feel and asking for an explanation you can understand.
It makes me angry but I don’t want to be like “Why didn’t you text me?!?
” As far as what you’re asking goes, it sounds to me like “young love.” I don’t mean that to be insulting – it is a nice thing.
Some things to consider: Personally, in a relationship, if someone doesn’t do what I expect them to do, I usually forgive them… I would say it should be as simple as, “OK, you’re doing this and it makes me feel this way (whatever it is you feel) and it makes me think this…It sounds obvious when I write it out, but in real life, you do need to keep clear on where you’re coming from. Adding to this point, I would also avoid words like “never” and “always” when it comes to things he does.Let me tell you, nothing makes me angrier faster than having a woman tell me I “always” do something (whatever it is) wrong or that I “never” do something (whatever it is) right.But the reason I say it is that it’s something I would have said years ago in an early relationship. The thing is, as I had more relationships –more falling in love and then eventually the break-up, more ups, more downs, more experience — my perspective changed and the way I was in relationships changed too… Sure, people get jaded by breakups, sometimes for a month, sometimes for several months (or longer), but the ups and the downs of relationships are both really good things.My point is that in the moments he’s with you, he probably does mean it.